It always seems a bit weird to try to hurt someone else by hurting ourselves. But sometimes what hurts us seems to hurt so good.
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The Cigar of Vengeance
In my previous post I told the story about how my mother got revenge on my father by smoking a cigar. The irony to the story is that my father wouldn't have known that she was smoking the cigar at the time and likely never knew it happened. My mother was angry at my father and did something that she knew he wouldn't have liked even though he had no idea that she was doing it. Unless she told him later, it's likely that my father never knew that my mother had smoked that cigar.
Years later I asked my mother about the incident. She told me that my father had gone to Las Vegas with a friend of his who she didn't like because she thought he was a bad influence. Besides, my mother didn't like the idea of being left at home with two young children when he was out having a fun trip. They were both fairly young at the time having been only married about five years. Bottom line though is that she was jealous.
When my parents were still dating my mother was a cigarette smoker. My father abhorred that practice and made it clear that he would not marry my mother as long as she was a cigarette smoker. She quit and they got married. When the Las Vegas incident came about, my mother found a cigar that had been given to my father in celebration of a baby's birth. To her, smoking that cigar would have pissed my father off though it was not an act that she wanted to blatantly flaunt in front of him. So I guess she smoked it in some sort of clandestine retribution for his leaving.
In some ways this does seem a bit odd, but many years later it was something to which I could somewhat relate. Perhaps taking after my father, I entered adulthood with an abhorrence of tobacco smoke. Many of my friends smoked and though I tolerated it, I hated it and often let my feelings be known. Then I met my first wife who was--at least in my view--a rather heavy smoker. I begrudgingly accepted her habit because, well, because I loved her. But her smoking was often a source of contention between us.
Eventually there were so many differences between us that we parted ways--an idea that was more hers than mine. Strangely, and perhaps not so coincidentally, one of her best friends had split with her husband shortly before our split. They also had the problem of her being a smoker and her husband being an anti-smoker like myself. After my wife and I split, I moved in with this guy and to my shock I discovered that he had taken up the habit of smoking. Soon I too was smoking right along with him, acquiring a two pack a day habit in the process. I guess our vengeance on our exes was taking up the vice that we disliked most about them.
Sometimes smoking that big old fat smelly cigar of vengeance is just what it takes to prove a point. What that point is I don't really know. I'm not sure about my old roommate, but I took my cigarette habit into my next marriage to another woman who smoked and we both remained heavy smokers for a couple years into our marriage until she became pregnant and we both quit. Both of us quit cold turkey and that was it. At least until another bout of vengeance reared it's ugly butt. But that's another story for another day. So have a cigar, cigarette, or whatever it is you're smoking.
Battle of the Bands Results
My vote in this Battle between two versions of "Have a Cigar" by Pink Floyd goes to the disco psychedelic take by Little Virgin Experience. Even though I'm a big fan of acoustic versions of big rock songs, the drive of the pulsating rhythm of Little Virgin captured my heart and I'm almost always a sucker for psychedelic music. Acoustic jams take me back to the days when my friends would gather with their instruments and play a song into oblivion. Fun, but no cigar after about fifteen minutes of riffing on the same song.
The voters had a different opinion as they bestowed an early lead on Atlantis Becoming keeping them in an ever rapidly growing lead to which Little Virgin could never catch up with. The outcome was very decisive giving the acoustic jam boys a victory in this Battle.
Final Vote Tally
Atlantis Becoming 20 votes
Little Virgin Experience 8 votes
Next Battle of the Bands on Thursday June 1st
I'll likely have one or two posts prior to the June 1st Battle, but that Thursday Battle is a cinch to happen. This upcoming Battle will begin my summer posting schedule and the song I'll be choosing will be a older popular standard that is about a beginning. And though the song might be old, I'll be using versions by more contemporary artists that all of you should know. These performances might even surprise some of you. Stay tuned!
Have you ever tried to get revenge on someone by doing something that was harmful to yourself? Have you ever been a smoker? What was it that caused you to first start a bad habit?